Originally published in 2012 | Updated October 2026 You discovered your spouse or partner had an affair, and now you can’t stop thinking about it. Where did they meet? What did they talk about? How long was it going on? Did they say “I love you”? Were there moments when you were together as a family while your partner was secretly involved with someone else? Perhaps you’re replaying conversations, searching for inconsistencies, or imagining your partner with the other person.