Can I give a speech at the wedding? Can I walk you down the aisle with your dad? How about fans for each guest since it will be so hot? Can so-and-so be one of your guests? Yup, I have 3 daughters and those were just a few of the things I asked along the way during their wedding planning. All declined, feelings got hurt (theirs and mine), and yet, the sky didn't fall when my desires were met with resistance (understandable resistance!). I learn as I go. I wasn't attuned to wh